The Black Woman is and always has been the crown jewel of the World . She has a natural beauty that comes in many sizes, shapes and shades. No matter the variations or combinations of these; her beauty is apparent to all. Every race of women want to emulate her physical characteristics in one way or another. Rather it be her full lips, pronounced cheek bones, her well shaped derrière or her skin tone itself; we see mainstream America and the world at large modeling themselves after The Black Woman.
However, the beauty that I speak of is not the one beheld with the eyes, but the beauty that lies within. Her nature is soft, empathetic, nurturing and loving, but that is not the image being portrayed of her in the same mainstream media that loves her looks. Why is that? Why is she portrayed as angry, bitter, aggressive and ratchet? Is it because we see these personality traits on display in our environments and therefore are inclined to accept them as true when they are put before us on social media, mainstream media or “reality” shows such as LHHP ATL?
Before we can answer any of the above questions we have to ask one of our own. “What in our environment has caused her to act so far out of her nature, for this modern version of herself to have room to come forth and to do so, so often that it has become her new normal? The answer to this question is simple, yet very complex.
The answer… The Black woman is in need of healing.
When you have a broken bone, you must go about re-setting that bone in its proper position and then give it time and stability in one form or another in order to mend. Once done, that bone will rejuvenate itself and be even stronger than it was before. How much more important is the healing of “The Black Woman’s mental and emotional states?” We must give her motive and means to re-set her mind and emotions by taking away some of the pressures placed on her by having to play roles not natural to her. Such as: head of household, father figure and sole provider. We must take the pressure of “looking for love” off her and give of it freely because if love is her nature and she receives very little from the men that she seeks it from, then she is operating out of an emotional deficit, correct? Can any of us go withdraw money from the bank if we have none in there? No!!! Love is no different.
So how is this healing done when there is a shortage of mature men who understand not only that this needs to be done but how to go about doing it?
The answer… The Black woman must do this healing herself; with none other than God as her guide.
Self love is the most powerful form of love in all the UNIVERSE outside of the love of the one that we all emanate from. God!!! So the next question should be, “If she has no knowledge of how to heal herself, then how is she supposed to undertake such a monumental task?”
The answer… Next Sunday!!!
This will be a continuous blog/conversation and I welcome comments and even criticism because both will create a much needed dialogue. I’ll add to it every Sunday until I reach the climax of it and bring to light some things that we know, but don’t realize that we know; and in doing so, bring about real and viable solutions for us as a whole to begin healing our family units and communities.
“The voice of my generation”