So with the first two installments of this blog series, I think it has been established that, “The Black Woman” is underappreciated, undervalued and often times crushed under the weight of her circumstances. Thereby creating a void in her life, our households and society as a whole that should be filled with the love that she naturally emenates and radiates when she is in her natural state of being and living her truth.
We so far have determined that “The Black Woman” is in need of healing and the fact that the healing we speak of is not medicinal; but must come from within her own person, of her own abilities, in cooperation with the source from which she came. That source is the infallible, infinite, omnipotent Creator of all that exist. Her ability to connect with this source and come into complete ONENESS with it, has and always will be there. However, her intuition and ability to listen to the still, small voice within is often clouded and drowned out by the circumstances in which she finds herself.
She finds herself lost and in need of answers and guidance. Usually when searching within the circles or resources comfortable to her, she can’t find what she seeks because the majority of the Women around her suffer from the same ails in one form or another and can’t offer much in the way of support besides a listening ear; followed by ill-timed, unwarranted, unproven advice. She looks for her peace from many different external sources rather it be social outings, (clubbing) drugs, alcohol, shopping, and worst case scenario, men. Truth be told, these men are counterproductive when it comes to her healing because they themselves are far from whole. It’s like the blind leading the blind. It will only be a matter of time before they both end up in a ditch.
So how does she heal you ask? Here are the first three steps on the journey towards self healing.
1.) The first step on this journey of self healing would be: First admit to oneself that a problem in fact exists. Look at your station in life and ask yourself is this where you should be? Are your circumstances comfortable or at least comforting? Do you wake with a feeling of optimism or have your dominant thinking patterns become routinely pessimistic? Look yourself in the mirror for a full 30 seconds in complete silence and see if your attention goes to your physical flaws instead of your internal beauty and thankfulness of your many blessings.
2.) Next, you have to positively identify the problem. Once you know that you have a problem or problems, the only way to deal with it is to identify it. You don’t go to the ER and say “Hey, I’m sick!!!” and they just hand you a prescription and you walk out the door towards the pharmacy. An assessment must be done and conclusions came to. You must do the same for self.
3.) The hardest of these 3 would be to find the definitive source of this problem. The reason this 3rd step is most difficult is because we often shift blame for the sake of comfort and personal acceptance. It’s easier to say “He done this; or she done that.” When it is a well known fact that he or she can only do to us what we allow. The question should in fact be; “What about me or the way I view myself causes me to allow myself to be done or treated in such a way?”
Once you come to the conclusion that a problem exists, identify said problem(s), and finally pinpoint their cause, you can begin the sometimes long, arduous process of self cleansing and be a step closer towards being whole again. All diseases (Dis-ease) begin and end in the mind. What you believe manifests in your reality. What you believe to be true, becomes real to you, even if it’s not for anyone else. We are going to deal with this subject in a scientific way and take it step by step until the gardens of our minds have been uprooted and replanted with healthy seeds of which we would relish in the bearing of its fruits. This will not be as fun as the concerts or parties we attend or some of the entertaining things we would rather be doing, but the rewards for undertaking such a task will be greater than any other investment you will ever make…
This will be a continuous blog/conversation and I welcome comments and even criticism because both will create a much needed dialogue. I’ll add to it every Sunday until I reach the climax of it and bring to light some things that we know, but don’t realize that we know; and in doing so, bring about real and viable solutions for us as a whole to begin healing our family units and communities.
Until next Sunday
Shane Shepherd.
“The voice of my generation“
Thank you for taking the time and energy to learn and understand Black Womanhood. This blog will be helpful for so many.
I love it keep up the good work Shane!! Alot of women are going threw the situations that you are speaking about so you are making it easy for them to talk about what’s going on in their life with other people and making it easy for a black woman realize what she is worth
I have begun to look forward to these commentaries. Please continue to enlighten and share.
The cleansing of the mind, body and spirit is so necessary in trying to be a better version of yourself. Getting out of denial, acknowledging the issue and cleansing yourself so that you can give and receive peace and love is what we all need to be focusing on at this point. Very good read, I enjoyed every minute of it.
This is a great blog article. I especially like that you credit complete healing with connecting to our Creator. His advice, from the Bible, never changes and is always dependable. You’re right in that most women, or people, never go that route. They look to other things that will undoubtedly fail them and their need to heal and grow.
Much needed, keep up the Great Work!
Reading this blog is very inspiring…it touches on so many aspects that are so needed. It is confirmation; it is food for the soul…thank you for tagging me.